also, if you slacken your grip with your arms, then you arent likely to be pulling the brake as hard are you! dive iscaused by the weight transfer when the brake is applied and the momentum of bike and rider are trying to push the bike forwards. if you loosen your grip on the bars, you will get less dive, not becaust the gripping with the knees is moving the load elsewhere, but because you arent holding the brake on as hard. the points of contact with the bike are immaterial. because the handlebars are an unmoving (in the sense that they dont move with the suspension in any other plane but side to side) part of the bike, holding them tight or slack will matter not a jot, a rider weighing for the sake of argument, 10 stone, will exert the same forces on the bikes suspension whether he is holding the bars tight or not at all.