Morning Martin,
As Marvin Gaye and Tammy Terrell said, "It takes two, baby, it takes two, to make a dream come true."

Well, it might do in your case Martin. If you cannot rigidly hold the damper rod, you will always be chasing the threaded lower end around the larger bore of the fork slider. An extra pair of hands can be very useful.

In my experience a standard/coarse metric thread, or a 1.25mm pitch thread, is used for the bolt holding the damper rod to the fork slider, not the fine metric thread, with a 1mm pitch thread. This may vary from manufacturer to manufacturer, annoyingly Fowlers don't show the size or thread of the cap screw in their parts diagram of the assembly, or the material of the sealing washer beneath the cap screw head. If it is aluminium alloy, I would replace it with an annealed copper washer. Fowlers have no replacement washers in stock and want £3-86 + P&P for one!

I use a Black & Decker "Workmate", to hold the fork stanchion upright, with the damper rod assembled, oiled, with whatever fork oil/ATF you intend to use (I prefer ATF, as it has a known viscosity, non of the oil weight marketing smoke screen), now is the time to secure the damper rod, with whatever tool you are using and ensure that the threaded end is centralised. Now slide the assembled fork slider, again well lubricated, up the fork stanchion and align the bolt, with its annealed copper/fibre washer, wee dab of nut lock, with the thread in the damper rod, with a wee wiggle and I turn the cap screw in the reverse direction, so that you can feel that it is centralised in the threaded hole of the damper rod, before turning it to tighten. It should be finger tight and I then tighten it up using 9Nm of torque. The cap screw needs to be nipped up, but not have its neck wrung!
Propellor's threaded rod wheeze, is a good idea, to get everything centralised, before removing the rod and threading in the cap screw.
I assume that you have already got this far and you now need to reverse the process in this video?:
Kawasaki_GPZ/EX_500_front_forks_strip_down"If some bu**er put it together, then I can take it apart and re-assemble it too!"

Good health, Bill